The One with Monday's Motivation

Olen sellainen henkilö, joka kerää itseensä voimaa ja uskoa, silloin kun toiset eivät usko minuun. Kuinka monta kertaa olen aiheuttanut sekaannusta sillä, kun kuulen jonkun suusta "ei hän pysty siihen", "teet virheen" tai että olen mukamas ajattelematon ja vastuuntunnoton. Nämä asiat eivät saa minua epätoivoon, päinvastoin. Motivaatio onnistumisesta ja oman elämän luomisesta vaan kasvaa. En ole mikään pinta-liitäjä. Tykkään syvällisistä keskusteluista, joissa voin ilmaista itseäni ilman että pelkään että toinen suuttuu tai loukkaantuu, tai mitätöi täysin sekä kyseenalaistaa. Tälläistä olen viime aikoina kokenut ystävieni keskuudessa, olen tullut siihen tilanteeseen, jossa minun onnellisuuttani, työtä tai toimintaa kyseenalaistetaan.

Välillä mietin olenko tehnyt jotain väärää, sanonut väärin. En ole tietääkseni puukottanut ketään selkään, tai väheksynyt kenenkään päätöksiä tai toimintaa. Mutta en myöskään jaksa vihoitella. Mielummin olen yksin ja onnellinen, kuin keräisin ihmisiä ympärilleni ja olisin onneton. En tarvitse (kenenkään ei täytyisi tarvita) ympärilleen sellaisia kavereita ja ystäviä, jotka tuomitsevat tai saavat tuntemaan oloni mitättömäksi. Ja tiedän, että viha kylvää aina vihaa, joten mielummin jätän tuntemukset sikseen. Olen tuntematta mitään. Tai olen mielummin vaikka onnellinen, heidän puolestaan, he ovat elämänsä ja suhtautumisen elämäänsä valinneet, jos he ovat onnellisia, hyvä niin.

Kukaan meistä ei ajattele asioista samalla tavalla. Kukaan ei omista täysin identtisiä arpia samassa paikkaa tai kenelläkään ei ole samoja elämänarvoja. Joku saattaa tavoitella isoa perhettä, joku ei halua lainkaan lapsia. Joku reppureissailee koko nuoruutensa etsien itseään, joku ottaa välivuoden lukion jälkeen, joku ei ole käynyt kuin ammattikoulun, jonkun tavoite on päästä mahdollisimman vaikutusvaltaiseen virkaan.. Silti, mikä minä olen tuomitsemaan. 

Pienestä asti meille on opetetaan että mitä sinulla on, ei ehkä ole toisella ja se mitä toisella on, ei ehkä koskaan tule olemaan sinulla. Tämä ei silti ole syy huonoon käytökseen. Ne joilla on sisaruksia ovat aina kohdanneet katkeruutta. Se kun isosisko saa valvoa myöhempään, tai miksi pikkuveli saa luisua kotitöistä, miksi sisko sai paremmat lahjat jouluna.. Elämä ei kuitenkaan ole kilpa-ajoa tai kamppailua siitä kenellä on parempi ansioluettelo ja kuka tienaa enemmän. Niinkuin Kanye laulaa - "Mutta olisitko mielummin alipalkattu vai yliarvostettu?"

Tässä postauksessa minun maanantain lainaukset (englanniksi, olen liian laiska suomentamaan, pahoittelut), jotka tuovat motivaatiota itselleni ja saavat jaksamaan ja tajuamaan, mikä elämässä onkaan tärkeintä. Minä. Minä olen minun elämässäni se tärkein.

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I am kind of person who is collecting power and faith to herself when other people doesn't have faith on me. I have been surprised and a bit confused after hearing such a things like "she can't do it", "you're making a mistake" or that I am unthinking and irresponsible. This kind of sayings, thoughts and things doesn't drive me to despair, but vice versa. Motivation of success and creating my kind of life just grows. I am not popinjay. I like deep conversations, where I can express myself without that I have to be afraid if someone gets upset or angry, or if someone void my thoughts and questions me. This kind of actions I've been facing lately between my friends and me, and I have come to the conclusion, where my happiness, job or actions have been questioned.

Sometimes I think, if I have ever done or I said something wrong. As far as I know, I haven't stabbed knife to anyone's back, or disparaged anyone's choices and actions. I don't have motivation to be angry either. I rather to be alone and happy than collect people around me and be unhappy. I don't need (and nobody shouldn't need) those kind of people around, who are judging and makes us feel negligible. And as I know, haters gonna hate, anger grows anger, I rather to be without any feelings. Or I would rather to be at least happy, for them. They have chosen their life and attitudes, if people are happy with it, so it will be.

Nobody of us doesn't think about things in the same way. No one doesn't own identical scars, exactly on the same places, or no one doesn't have exactly the same values of life. Someone's goal might be to have big family, another doesn't want children at all. Somone is backpacking whole life, searching himself. Someone want to have year-off after high school, another haven't even be in high school. Someone's goal might be to be powerful and get to the highest position at job. Neverthless, who I am to judge.

When we were child, we get taught; what others have, you may not have. And what you have, others doesn't maybe have. Still, this isn't the reason for bad behavior. Those, who have sisters have been facing some anxiety at some point.. When older sister can stay up longer than you can, or why little brother doesn't have to do homework, why sister got better Christmas presents than I did.. Life isn't about who earns the most, or who has better CV than another. Like Kanye is singing - "But would you rather be underpaid or overrated?"

On this post I want to share my Monday's quotes, which brings me motivation, keeps me going and makes me realize what is the most important in life. Me. I am the most important thing in my life.

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She is free in her wildness, she is a wanderess, a drop of free water. She knows nothing of borders and cares nothing for rules or customs. 'Time' for her isn’t something to fight against. Her life flows clean, with passion, like fresh water.
Roman Payne

A man can be as great as he wants to be. If you believe in yourself and have the courage, the determination, the dedication, the competitive drive and if you are willing to sacrifice the little things in life and pay the price for the things that are worthwhile, it can be done.
Vince Lombardi

Every great story on the planet happened when someone decided not to give up, but kept going no matter what.
Spryte Loriano

Success… seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.
Conrad Hilton

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover.
Mark Twain

Opportunities don’t happen, you create them.
Chris Grosser

The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.
Walter Bagehot

There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed.
Ray Goforth

When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy”. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.
John Lennon

No matter how hard the past is, you can always begin again.
Jack Kornfield

You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.
Christopher Columbus

The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty. ― Winston Churchill

You learn more from failure than from success. Don’t let it stop you. Failure builds character. ― Unknown

Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right. ― Henry Ford

Security is mostly a superstition. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. ― Helen Keller

I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ― Maya Angelou

I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. ― Stephen Covey

It takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are. – E.E. Cummings

Recognizing power in another does not diminish your own. ― Josh Whedon

Often those that criticise others reveal what he himself lacks. ― Shannon L. Alder

The worst part of success is trying to find someone who is happy for you. ― Bette Midler

Isn't it kind of silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up? ― Sean Covey

Don’t worry if people think you’re crazy. You are crazy. You have that kind of intoxicating insanity that lets other people dream outside of the lines and become who they’re destined to be.
Jennifer Elisabeth

Ihanaa alkanutta viikkoa näiden mietelauseiden sekä kuvien kera. Haleja! // Have a lovely start for the new week. Hugs!